This page is only done by a survivor of abuse this is my own advice and help, for professional advice please go to our links page where you will find place to get them professional help and advice.
What I do:
My counsellor got me to write down the way I felt,
1) About the abuse
2)The way it has effected me
3) The way I feel about it everyday
(to see if my feelings changes depending on what's
happened in the day), So it was a diary
of my feelings about the whole situation with the teacher.
I also wrote letters to the teacher (which I never sent of course) telling him how I felt about him and what he done to me and my family, in these letters I would ask him questions what I wonder about alot.
This was just so they wasn't going around and around in my head. I found this to be good because I didn't always want to talk about it but I wanted it to be out and not just in my head.
With my counsellor, in some sessions we done this techinc where we pretended that the teacher was in the room with us and I had to ask him or tell him things I wanted, just so again they wasn't piled up in my head.
Of course NO one will ever have to see what you have wrote, You can just keep it hidden until you may feel ready to show people how it has affected you and your life.
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